Loneliness doesn’t just hurt the heart; it also hurts our health, according to a recent study published in the journal, Sleep. Apparently, the link between loneliness and sleep disruptions persisted even in those who were married or had a large family, proving to scientists that loneliness doesn’t always equate isolation.
“There can be people with lots of social connections that feel terribly alone, and conversely there are people with relatively small social networks who do just fine,” said lead researcher Lianne Kurina, Ph.D., an Assistant Professor of Epidemiology at the University of Chicago.”Different people have different needs in terms of relationships–and it’s the space between what you want and what you have that can turn into loneliness.” The 95 participants in the study all had strong social connections, as they were part of a close-knit community.
Early humans may have evolved the tendency to wake more easily when they feel alone and vulnerable in order to protect themselves against potential threats. And while short-term feelings of loneliness can be healthy because they can encourage humans to make social connections, long term loneliness–apart from causing one to lose sleep (which can lead to weight gain, depression, poor work performance, weakened immune system, and more)–can set one up for expected rejection and a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Therefore, it’s not helpful to tell someone who feels alone to “make more friends” or “go on more dates.” Instead, Kurina suggests, “Engage in situations where you’re not necessarily expecting people to give to you, but where you’re the one giving–like volunteering, or common-interest meetings like book groups.” She adds, “Slowly you’ll begin to see the world–and see your relationships–in a more positive way.”
Words By: Nina Boutsikaris
Photo By: Michael Delaney
