To some extent it takes a real man to be a nice guy. You know the type – smart, confident, charming, funny, and respectful; they love spending time with you but they also have real life goals they’re trying to achieve.
But on the other hand, there are some who are too nice for their own good!
Now, I don’t think women are that hard to comprehend, but of course, I’m biased, so I’ll just be straight-forward in my attempt.
Women appreciate a gentleman, but they don’t tend to respect pushovers.
It seems that most nice guys are dreadfully insecure – that’s why they’ll stop the world and melt with you, because they have a deep need to be liked and want to be socially accepted. These guys think they know how to court a lady, when in reality, their timing is all wrong — they either come-on too strong, too hard or too fast, in the hope that somehow, someway, their love interest will fall for them.
For example, one of my female friends always asks, “Where are all of the nice men hiding?” And my response would always be the same: “Are you sure you want a nice guy, because every time one came into your life you’d try to get rid of him.”
Of course, she’d grimace and pass them all off as creepers, who were too clingy and took way too much interest in her life than their own. Not to mention a few of them would call and shower her with compliments multiple times a day until the words lost all meaning – talk about going overboard.
So what’s a happy medium?
You can be a chivalrous gentleman and still be a nice guy without going overboard; because at the very least, women appreciate the little things.
Words By: Ashley Kooblall
Image By: Jaymi Britten
